It’s OK. I understand that you were feeling sorry for us. And I know you were thinking that you would never want a marriage like that. Where two people are out for dinner at a romantic setting but are not talking to each other. I know because, you know, I used to think that way too. My idea of a romantic dinner was to look lovingly into my partner’s eyes and talk. “My goodness”, I would say , spotting silent, brooding couples at restaurants. “I hope I never have a loveless marriage like that”.
But you know what? I was wrong. And today, I know you are too. Marriage is more than looking at each other lovingly across candle lit tables and talking.
Marriage is about a tired husband coming back home to discover no dinner as the maid/cook did not turn up because of the rains.
Marriage is about a husband understanding that the wife is too tired to cook.
Marriage is about a tired husband agreeing to go out for dinner because his wife says she had a rotten day at the office and wants to step out to cheer herself up.
Marriage is about giving each other the space to sort out jumbled work related thoughts and not talk incessantly about trivialities.
Marriage is about wife knowing that he will tell all once he’s done sorting out his brain.
Marriage is about husband knowing that she will tell all once she’s done sorting out her brain.
Marriage is about comfortably waiting for two plates of spaghetti bolognaise while just soaking up the atmosphere and trying to find mental peace.
That’s marriage, sweetie. And you’ll be lucky if you have one like ours.
The ‘jaded’ and ‘bored’ couple on the next table.