My first Karva Chauth was exactly 2 days after my marriage. So there I was, still in my heavy silk sarees, at my in laws’ house, exhilarated at being with the man I loved all 24 hours without having to rush back home after a date, off for a honeymoon the next day; how could I not have succumbed to keeping the fast? To be very fair my mom-in –law left it all up to me. But the lure of the moment was too much.
I thoroughly enjoyed myself that day. I dressed up in this beautiful red silk saree, had everyone pamper me and had a new husband following me around like I was going to faint any minute. I still remember we went to M-Block market in GK1 in the evening and he bought me flowers for my hair. Goodness! The romance!
It’s been 9 years now. I still keep the fast. And out of no coercion at all. Simply put, I love the festival.
The point is, for me this day is not about keeping a fast so my husband can have a long life ( I mean, really!), it’s a day of love, commitment and a lot of effort from both of us to make it special.
And no, I don’t go berserk shopping. I spend the day at office ( writing posts!!!). And my husband is yet to give me any gifts for this particular day.
I take a lot of liberties with tradition. We don’t have the normal home cooked food for dinner. I don’t go and do the puja with the other women…I do puja at home. But I keep the fast with an earnestness and accord this festival with a lot of seriousness. I know a lot of people who don’t keep the fast. My own mom gave up many years ago. My sister scoffs at the whole proceedings. My mom in law has never kept the fast herself. I think the choice is completely personal
No. He no longer needs to prove his love for me. Nor I to him by keeping a fast. That exists in the small everyday things that we do. But can you imagine the romance and the memories that this festival has given us. In Kolkata, one year, it was impossible to spot the moon from our house, so the man actually drove me down to the Hooghly river bank so I could see the moon from there. It was beautiful. It’s a memory that will last me a lifetime.